SO SO Worth The Wait!!

So sorry everyone but I seemed to have stolen Lloydie's blog for good so here I am again... he will come back I promise and no I've not locked him away from the computer!!

But I was trawling through my Facebook posts the other day and I came across the attached link to when Jaja (pronounced Jayjay) appeared live on BBC Breakfast News and I am so so proud I felt compelled to post it here as well.

We received the phone call from the Beeb the night before asking if Jaja would be prepared to appear at 7 o'clock the following morning and they would send a car for him.  Needless to say he was delighted and agreed immediately.  Now having appeared on live TV I have to admit to being somewhat dubious but I needn't have been... just judge for yourselves.  Sorry that the quality is poor but I had to film it on his iPhone from our TV (which obviously I'd set to record) so it is a touch grainy but it was the only way I could do it.

And this is the reason our book Dreams Do Come True is so important to us, because I can't even find the words to say the depth of pride we felt as a family as our little boy undertook the immense pressure, I for one was beaming inside and out at his courage, and this was the first time he'd been alone on live TV WOW what a natural.

For those who don't know, it took us 12 years of IVF treatment to have this young man and boy he was worth the wait.  Everyone who desires to be a parent as much as we did deserves the right to be one, he has totally enriched all our lives beyond anything we could have imagined and the love we feel for him is totally immeasurable - HE is our life!

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Oops! Hijacking Again ... An Update by Trudie x

Our book Dreams Do Come True was published in September 2011, it's aim... to make a million pounds from the revenue for St Mary's Hospital in gratitude for our wonderful son Jaja and I remember stepping into an unknown world, just as I done many years previous as I entered the unknown world of infertility.  I was very proud that we found the most dynamic Publisher in CGW Publishing and Christopher Greenaway has been invaluable, he is a true gift.  We soon featured in all the local newspapers and some Nationals too.  We appeared on TV shows such as Granada Reports, North West Tonight, Live with Fern Britton, BBC Breakfast News and a host of radio shows too numerous too mention!  Who'd have thought that a couple from Leyland in Lancashire could accomplish that?  But we did, we even had our very own book signing at Waterstones, okay we didn't pull the crowds like Jordan when she had her book signing, but we actually had an official book signing event - my life just went crazy... 

We are still aiming for that million and we greet each new day with great hope knowing that one day it will happen.  Here's the picture when we donated the first £1,000 it was a huge day in my life ... 

Initially the book was called "From IVF to IVA & Onto Bankruptcy", but we found that Dreams was much more befitting and we love it because we know that Dreams REALLY Do Come True ...

Since the launch of Dreams, Lloyd wrote another book, an eBook called "Together Forever", which was initially titled "Why Women Leave ... Or Stay and Loathe Us", but that was changed to "The Circle of Love" and ended up Together Forever.  I have read it and I obviously adore Lloyd, but I have to say I laughed my way through it though there were some poignant moments and some rather powerful ones.  He based this book having studied me for 30 years!!! 

We are now on with the next project, would you believe a football book!  This book was based on an article Lloyd wrote when Bolton Wanderers relocated from Burnden Park to the Reebok Stadium, it was a heart rendering piece which brought a lump to my throat (I did actually cry) so he decided to invite fans from other Clubs that had relocated to write about their feelings, the response so far has been stunning, so much so I now know the utter passion surrounding football.  Initially I wasn't too enthralled with the idea of this project but I am now spellbound and totally excited, so a big well done to Lloydie!

Anyway before Lloyd gets back and catches me in the act of stealing his blog I will bid you all a goodnight, hope you all sleep well and hope you all accomplish your dreams - NEVER STOP DREAMING. 

Bless you, love you all

Trudie xx

Hijack #2 - Jaja's Christening Speech!!!

Hijack #2...

It's me again!  And so far Lloyd doesn't even know I've been hijacking his blog and I had so much fun last time I thought I'd do it again... 

So the other day I was searching through some things and I came across this, it totally overwhelmed me so I thought I'd share it with you.  I remember Lloyd's delivery of it on the day, it took my breath away and it still does!  It's little things you come across on a daily basis that make you feel blessed truly blessed - I love being reminded to always count my blessings ...

Jaja’s Christening Speech – Lloyd Thompson

6^th June 1999

I would first of all like to thank everyone for coming today.

Now everyone here is either a close friend or family member and therefore you all know how long we waited for this little chap to come along.  I think you all know just how much it means for Trudie and myself to be given a ‘Most precious gift from God’ or as they would say in Nigeria ‘Jaja’.

What has surprised both of us though is just how much he means to all of you.  After he was born we received over 200 cards of congratulations and the hall carpet is wearing thin with the number of visitors beating a path across it on a daily basis with gift a plenty – (so think yourselves lucky you got an invite to Jaja’s coming out party)!  Seriously though, it’s so touching to see the genuine love that so many people have for him from his Grandparents to Godparents and all of you.

As for Trudie and me, well six numbers on a Saturday night couldn't replace the jackpot that we've hit.  There’s a saying that goes ‘Mothers hold their children’s hands a while and their hearts forever’ – I think that’s true of both parents.  Lots of you here today are parents, Trudie’s parents, my parents and their parents, you all know that feeling of holding your Child's heart forever, we are so grateful to have joined the parent club, to be given the opportunity to hold his little heart. 

So whatever you are drinking please raise your glasses to ‘The most precious gift from God’ or as they say in Africa Jaja! 

WHILE THE CATS AWAY .....

Hello Lovely People, my name's Trudie and I'm the other half of Lloyd and like the title suggests ... while the cats away the mouse will play ... So I decided to hijack his blog mmmm so here goes! ...

Anyone who knows Lloydie (full version would read Lloydieroonypoohs!) would describe him as a real trooper, a happy trooper and a lovable trooper.  He is kind and he's generous and he never ever complains about anything EVER no matter the adversity he has endured and I should know, I dragged him through 12 years on IVF treatment!  Lloyd would always say "Don't waste one single minute of your precious life feeling sorry for me because I'm fine and dandy like a million dollars", and he just gets on with it with a smile on his face, a song in his heart and even, on occasion, a dance around our kitchen/dining room/lounge/hallway/bedrooms/bathroom/landing etc. on one occasion he actually conga danced over our bed with me in it!  Well apparently I was en route!!

As you are no doubt fully aware Lloyd is presently compiling a book to honour all the football stories from the real life fans who have had to live through the excruciatingly harrowing experience of their sacred football stadiums being uprooted and moved to newer, I suppose more efficient, safer grounds - quite a huge task to take on but suffice to say he is doing a magnificent job and he has managed to obtain many stories some very amusing but some are so poignant they bring a tear to the eye.  I believe this book will be a beautiful gift to the memories of so many true and loyal fans.

SO HERE'S MY PLEA!!

I have attached Lloyd's own memories of his beloved Bolton Wanderers moving from Burnden Park to the Reebok Stadium and I am asking that you forward it onto anybody at all, please don't preempt whether you believe anyone would be interested or not, just please please forward and let's see how many more stories we can produce between us.  So if you're on Facebook then please post, if you're on Twitter then please tweet, if you're on LinkedIn please post ... you get the idea and I know you will all want to help me help him, it will be a fantastic surprise next time he comes on to see that I've been up to my mischievous meddling shenanigans - it's one of the reasons he married me!

So I'll sign off now but before I go I just want to say a huge thank you for all your kind support of this great man who I get to call my dear sweet hubby.

Bless you all and I send you big hugs and kisses and a bag load of love.

Yours in great anticipation,

Trudie xx

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'IT'S MY BIRTHDAY...I'LL WRITE WHAT I WANT TO!'

Hi everyone! I just wanted to do a quick posting before I go out to celebrate my Birthday which is today. I like it when I have good reason to party, although having said that and then thought it through, why do I need a reason or excuse to go out and let my hair down? (Not literally of course...you've all seen my photos and I don't do hair as you can clearly see. Well not since my Apollo Creed days of the 80's at least).

Anyway, I'm not Blogging today just to tell you that I'm the 'Birthday Boy' because there is another reason why I'm chuffed with myself...My new e-book 'Together Forever' that I told you about a few weeks ago goes live today on 'Amazon' and I know that if you like my Blog then you will like my book. I really hope that you will buy yourself a copy and more to the point enjoy reading it and any reviews on Amazon will be much appreciated. (I nearly said 'good reviews' will be appreciated but I know you will all love it!)

Right... that's enough plugging of the new book, I'm off now to get Merry as Trudie and Jaja are taking me out to a lovely Italian Restaurant nearby where there is great food and wine to be consumed by yours truly.
Oops! final book plug...the link to Amazon is below....enjoy.

https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/B00J4PXRE8    

S.W.A.L.K.

I suppose that being a writer of this Blog as well as a couple of books, I more than most should embrace all the current day technology that makes the life of an author so much easier. After all computers, email, internet, mobile phones etc, etc, are all designed to put us in contact with each other at the touch of a button.

If you have a sudden urge to communicate with someone who may be on the other side of  town or indeed the other side of the world there are numerous ways in which you can be doing just that within seconds... Now I can readily see the benefits of speedy communication and response in the case of emergencies or in business but in the general day to days of life I have to ask "What's all the bloody rush?!"

We've all at some-time or other been in a situation where we are having a face to face conversation with another person and had 'a slip of the tongue' or blurted out words without really thinking what we were saying, words that on reflection later we didn't really mean to say or if we did mean to say them we didn't mean to say them in the order that they came out (I think that makes sense)...So having said the wrong thing in a conversation where you are actually in the same room as the other person you have the opportunity there and then to look them in the eye and change your words or apologise or explain what you really meant to say. You are communicating in the best way available to us as humans ie, face to face and verbally.

As I said at the top of this page I really do embrace all the modern technology that is available to us these days but there's an old fashioned, romantic part of me that laments the passing of the 'art of writing'. I don't mean writing in the way I am at this very moment tapping away at my computer, I mean proper writing with a pen and paper.

I describe writing as an 'art' because I think nowadays it is,'a romantic art' that is fast dissapearing and I find it a great shame that we are allowing that to happen. Bring back the pen and paper I say! and I can just hear all you 'Tech Heads' screaming "But it's too slow!" So I say again "What's all the bloody rush?!"

When Napoleon wrote his famous love letters to Josephine he did not send them by text!
When Shakespeare wrote his works he did not do it on his laptop!
When Beethoven was laying down his tunes he was not in some high tech recording studio!

They all did the same thing...they put pen to paper and created masterpieces of their time that still live on in this technological age we now live in. When you write with a pen on paper you have time to think and give proper consideration to the words you are using and the way in which you are using them. When you send a quick text for example you can so easily say the wrong thing or even if you don't intend to say the wrong thing your abbreviated, garbled message can so easily be misconstrued by the reader...particularly if you have rushed it and sent it to the wrong person in your addresses list (and yes we all know that does happen). Texting is such a poor way of communicating compared to the letters we used to write back in time.

The title of this Blog is S.W.A.L.K. and I would confidently assume that not many people of the younger generations know what it means. It stands for 'Sealed with a loving kiss' and it's what romantic couples would write on the envelopes of their love letters to each other. Love letters where they have time to consider their true emotions and feelings for each other before writing them down. Trudie and me used to regularly write to each other in this way when I had to move away to Aberdeen and it helped to keep our relationship strong in spite of the many miles between us. Soldiers in the trenches of the Great wars used to look forward to the letters they would receive from loved ones who were thousands of miles away because they would be able to read and feel just how much they were loved and missed.

I'm not saying writing a letter once in a while can make your world rosy if it's nothing of the sort but it can definitely enhance the way we communicate with each other. Texting for me is a rather faceless way of interacting with others and these days you even hear of employers sacking employees by text and how cowardly and inconsiderate is that!?

If you still don't know where I'm coming from in all of this then just think about that soldiers in the trenches all those years ago and it's bad enough that this weeks letter happens to be of the 'Dear John' variety' but at least his sweet-heart has taken the time to give serious consideration to the words she is conveying to him. She explains all the ins and outs and why's and wherefores of why she cant stay with him "It's me not you" etc...Whichever way he reads that letter he is going to be hurting but it's still  way better  than: Bleep! Bleep!...Incoming text...."Soz babe, ave to finish wiv u, cant **** some text missing ****

Nuff said!
      

'TOGETHER FOREVER'...

You could be forgiven for thinking the title of this latest post is referring to the 'Billboard Hot 100' 1988 No1 hit by Rick Astley but it's nothing to do with that really as I have simply borrowed those words to use as the title for my soon to be released e-book.
Writing comes easily and naturally to me as I transfer my thoughts through my fingers to my keyboard with very little effort...until it comes to titles as for some strange reason I always seem to struggle to come up with something I'm truly happy with. I think the title of a book or blog should convey some clue as to what the reader can expect to find in the main text so the name of my new book was the very last piece of the jigsaw to be added.

The book itself was 27 years in the making. Not that it took me so long to write it but as ever I write about life, love & relationships and this past week-end saw Trudie and I celebrating our 27th Wedding Anniversary. The comedians among'st you may quip "You would get a shorter sentence for committing murder"...though I suspect the vast majority of those comedians would be of the male species and that little observation in itself gives a hint towards the reading content of 'Together Forever'...

I don't think the vast majority of men in relationships are anywhere near as good as they could be and while 'it takes two to Tango' it's more often than not the man who fails to truly master the emotional steps of the 'Marriage Tango' and in my book I attempt to give a few tips and pointers to the guys that I hope will help them to be more successful in their relationships. I've not resorted to writing a boring list of do's and don'ts for men to follow, the book is more a series of anecdotes and observations from my own life where I have explained my perspective viewpoint.

What qualifies me to be doling out my 'pearls of wisdom' to you?...well nothing really if you are looking for letters after my name that show me to be some sort of 'Marriage or relationship Councillor'. However if you think 27 very happy years in a mixed race marriage where we have encountered 12 years of infertility problems, the loss of a business and ultimately Bankruptcy gives me a platform from which to speak then buy my book and see how we have made our lives together work no matter what we have been through. That said, if you are expecting 'tales of woe and heartache' you may be dissapointed because I don't do 'woe is me' and neither does Trudie and that's probably the main reason why we will indeed be 'Together Forever'

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